Saturday, December 02, 2017

Thanksgiving: the art of letting go

Some friendships you let go as they run their course. Your lives are going in different directions, and you acknowledge that like it or not, you are not on their list of priorities anymore. As much as I'm all about agape love, there comes a point where I have to acknowledge that I am only human, and I have only limited time and attention for people in my life, there is no point in keeping these unrequited relationships. So you just stop trying, and let the connection fade with time.

Some friendships you let go for your own sanity and benefit. You realise eventually that having these people who are willing to be in your life, actually does more harm than good, and potentially can wreak more havoc, unwittingly, or not. So you take a breath, let the mind overrule the heart, and lock them out.

Then there are some friendships you let go, for their good. You know that staying in their lives, for whatever reason, is no longer adding value to them, and may even end up hurting them. So you steel your heart, and stride out of their lives, knowing that the best way to love them is from where you stand now - from a distance. 

Such is life - people come and go, and everything happens for a reason. At the end of it, I just learn to take it all in, and most importantly, be thankful - for the memories and the love while I had them, and for the friendships that have stood the test of time, year after year after year. 

As I learn to get better at letting go, I learn to be grateful for those who made the effort, and fight to keep our bonds alive, no matter how much time, life and distance gets in the way. 💖


imp said...

It’s almost as though we have to take a look at our friends every three years or so. Heh. Like seasons of life, friends alos weave in and out.

b.muse said...

@imp: Yea man, the regular culling is essential for sanity! :p